SD, I know your gonna say what the hell is Ian doing in here. Well, I do follow you, just usually you don't need to hear anything I would say.
Today is a different day for me. As I read, I fealt an overwhelming sense of needing to say what I want to say to you. So here it is:
Over the past year I have watched you grow in leaps and bounds. I have watched you become this magnificant self sufficient woman. I have watched you accept your H's faults while growing yourself. I have watched you become the woman that you want to be and show incredible patience with your H in hopes that he would join you in this period of growth so that the two of you could have a strong marriage.
Now this crap, well, sorry time for me to play the role that I seem to play often around here. The role of the realist who believes that we deserve to be treated a certain way. The guy who believes that when a woman like yourself, Jules, Lissie, Fig, Joanie, I could name oh so many more, grow to be such wonderful women, you have to come to a point where you realize that your H may not ever be able to be what you need in a husband in order to lead a fulfilled life.
You have made it very clear to him what it is that you need. What he needs to work towards in order for you to be happy and grow with him. What has he done for you SD? How long do you wait for him to give a little bit?
Give a little bit Give a little bit of your love to me Give a little bit I'll give a little bit of my love to you See the man with the lonely eyes Take his hand, you'll be suprised
So i'll give a little bit I'll give a lttle bit of my life for you So give a little bit Give a little bit of your time to me Now's the time that we need to share So send a smile, we're on our way back home ooh yea yea We gotta feel it Yea yea yea yea... Ooo Don't you need to feel at home Ooo you gotta feel it Yea you gotta want to OO you gotta sing, we've come along way tonight
So give a little bit Give a little bit of your love to me I'll give a little bit I'll give a little bit of my life for you Now's the time we need to share So send a smile, we're on our way back home Yea come along too Yea we gotta feel it Cause i need to feel at home Come along too Such a long ride oo come a long way Such a long ride Come a long way Sing it tonight
Do you know this song SD? I like the goo goo dolls version myself. What it means is that it takes two. It says I am giving and I need you to give a little bit.
The thing is you can only ask for so long before you get sick and tired of being sick and tired. When do you decide that you have done your part and it is not being reciprocated in the appropriate manner?
So I have one question for you SD, what do you want to do now? How much more do you want to take? When does SD get to be loved the way that she deserves to be loved?
So here's the thing, I know that the "standers" will have a fit on me for asking you these questions, but its reality time and SD, you deserve better than what you are getting my dear. So hopefully you won't be mad at me for this post as I am not a regular on your thread, but it doesnt mean tat I don't follow you or care a great deal about you so take it for what it is. The Ian approach to DBing and keeping it real.
