Sometimes we have to let them know how we feel about certain things. I think what you asked was a reasonable request. You deserve that and so much more.
I have been keeping track of your sitch. You said there is nothing tying the two of you together now that the property is sold and you do not have kids together. I disagree. The two of you have the memories of all the good times together. I believe that will eventually hold a lot of weight with your H when he comes out of the tunnel.
Me: 45 H: 43 Married: 19 years Dated 05 years Bomb: 11/06 OW - "I love her, but still want you as my friend"