OK, that does make sense. I see that you are happier (and perhaps healthier) so thoseare indeed benefits. From my perspective, I am neither happier or healthier without my W. I do hope she comes around, but it is not looking likely.
Chris, This may sound a bit harsh, but I think most here will agree with it:
YOU are in charge of your happiness. Once you realize this and start acting upon it:
1. You will be happier (OK, circular logic, but true.) 2. You will be more attractive to other people (including your W and all the other women out there).
I read a great book called "Awakening at Midlife" by Kathleen Brehony. I think you could get a lot out of it. One of the things she recommends when looking for your "Path with Heart" is to ask two questions:
1. What did I love to do when I was 10 years old? 2. What would I do if I won the lottery?
The answers to these questions can point you in the direction of a meaningful 2nd half of life.
You have been awakened by your W's actions. Now is you chance to realign yourself to the path that will make you happy (or better yet, fulfilled). Once you find this path, you just may look back and see your W running down it yelling, "Chris, Chris, wait for me, I want to come too!!"
If not, then you will still be going down the right path for you.
SD.
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
