Hugs, Was2. Thanks for being supportive. Do I truly want a D? No. But there is so little to work with here. You know what I mean. It would hurt a LOT LOT less if he filed before he got involved with someone else (who knows; maybe he already is?) and then told me he was filing because he wanted to get married to someone else. That would hurt all over again. Want to see Hopefloats back at square one? Let H pull that stunt. Not good. I'd rather he do it with just 2 people involved, not three. I do feel relieved having stated my feelings.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.