I could actually appreciate more anger and/or less than nice behavior, then it would be easier for me to detach as well. As I mentioned, we get along better than ever, no hint of intimacy, but lots of playful banter as if we were best friends that were attracted to each other. (but, just to keep it clear, there's another request for lawyer status thrown in)
The kids and I were at the park yesterday,(it's my week with the kids) she called and asked where we were, and if she could meet us. I said sure, and we hung out at the park, all together, for about an hour. She had plans later, I didn't ask for specifics. We had a nice time at the park, said goodbye to each other, and both smiled, and said have a good night.
She seems nicer than she would to the average joe, but then maybe she is that nice to everyone. I would just think that if she truly had no feelings for me, then she would be more business like, less smiles, less laughing.
I'm probably reading more into it than I should, probably a little more hopeful than I should be, but it's hard to believe that two people with three children together, who get along this well, can't find a way to work it out.
Part of me thinks that she's just pushing forward because she's made the decision for the D and in her had has past the point of no return since it took so much effort to make that decision.
But, the reality seems, based on a lot of similar stories that I've read here, is that she's very detachced, comfortable, isn't invested enough in me to let anything bother her anymore, so the sight of me doesn't irritate her like it used to. But it she is that comfortable with me again, seems like it might make sense to explore rebuilding what we had, at least in my head.