Oh, Breton...I'm sorry that these people have made you feel this way.
You are not garbage and you are not disposable.
I take 50% responsibility for the problems in my marriage. I take 0% responsibility for the way my H chose to fix the problems. Zero percent.
If your H is lying, it will catch up to him. This weekend two lies my H told have caught up to him. Two friends compared notes and found out he lied. They want nothing to do with him any longer. Let him lie...don't try and tell your side, especially to his family. The truth will come out eventually...it may take time, but it will come out.
Honey - you are not garbage and you are certainly not disposable. You didn't walk out on your marriage. You didn't have an affair. While you may not be perfect, you certainly don't deserve what your H did.
It will get better with time. It seems so unfair now...and it is...but you will get better and stronger.
