(((HUGS))) agent99, so sorry things are not going well. I think you are becoming more clear on things you want, though, and on things that need to change. at least that's what I hear. I'm sorry he doesn't seem up for any of it, but maybe he will someday. in the meantime, keep that focus on yourself.
the abortion thing is tough. personally, an I am in no way debating the issue here, I am pro-choice...for others. I don't think I could abort a child my H and I conceieved, unless something was terribly wrong with it. We had a bit of a scare this past spring, post bomb. not a big scare, but my cycles are like clockwork and I was a couple of days late. the only time in my life I was late before was when I was pg, and H and I get pg pretty easily (even got that bonus kid last time) so I was worried. H said abortion absolutely, he doesn't want any more kids, even if things were okay between us. I looked at him like he was crazy. I personally feel like my family is complete, but if something happened, I would not hesitate to go forward with the pg.
sorry, going on about myself here, just wanted to say I understand. my h is pro choice, but is also someone who was so excited to start a family, pushed to start it, was thrilled both times I became pg, the idea that he would so easily end a life we created just floored me.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
