How do I get hold of the KLA tapes, and um, what are they?
You'd think by now I'd know this wouldn't you?
I invited H to join the bb today, and he said "maybe next week". I think it would help our sitch for him to have somewhere to post his POV and feelings too. I'd love to have him in the "fold".
I've been thinking about a little get-away myself. My 40th is coming up in early April, just after classes end so perhaps that should be one of our goals.
KLA is "Keeping Love Alive" and it's a tape series from Michele. It's very similar to DB and DR principles but rolls it into more of a R aspect instead of just working on getting your S back.
You do a lot of analyzing your R and yourselves by looking at common myths that you are under for the R, goal setting, finding common arguments/problems in the R and the "cheeseless tunnels" you go down, looking at each other's needs and wants, etc...
You can find the tapes at the online store, here's the link: KLA Tapes
Oh! you mean location...I'm in a smallish city in the middle of nowhere in North Western Ontario Canada. Nearest bigger cities are the better part of a day's drive away. (and there are only a couple of them).
And it's still so friggin' cold here! -37 with the windchill on Monday morning .
Hi SB, The letter sounds great! I think your H is sincerely trying to fix the mess that stands between you two.
Thank you for stopping by my thread. I really do need the POV of the people here on piecing. I think that you guys really see where things are and have good input on my sitch. This is so much work, and it gets tiring sometimes, especially when I feel like I'm hitting my head on a brick wall this week.
Anyway, thanks!!
Me 47 Ex H 46 Bomb 9/02 D final 3/04 Ex H now married to OW
------------ This is surviving. There is no such thing as a normal life, there's just life. So get on with it and enjoy it!
Hey SB. Thanks for coming by my thread. I've actually read yours here and there...
What a wonderful thing that your H wrote you an apology letter. I'd love something like that from my W, but don't expect it.
Quote: But I still feel kind of numb . I want so much to believe it all, I suppose it will take consistent action to help me feel that it is all for real.
Ahh...to regain that trust. I think this is one of the hardest things our Ses have to deal with...that we just cannot trust them like we used to. I believe it drives them crazy and they'll do a lot to try and regain it. Ultimately, it's up to us to trust again. I've talked about this on my thread, but I think there are two kinds of trust: one is simply a blanket trust we have to give so the R can just survive; and the other is regaining the deeper trust we had before all of the @#$% hit the fan. The former we just have to do out of necessity, and the later will come in time. Yes, time...patience...time...patience...blah, blah, blah. As long as our Ses are showing remorse and are working to have a better R, we just need to deal. It ain't easy, but it is what it is...
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