TOH... There really is not pat answer...but yes, even the proud ones that claim they know what they want and have made up their minds come out of it...and yes, they can decide to come home... Even if they are claiming they are done, want a D and want to move on...well that doesn't mean anything either...you don't believe what they say...and only half of what they do...
I am having a rough day too...found some "old" emails from OW to H...I know I shouldn't have looked but I did...as I was by his side in the hospital less then a year ago he was still writing to her...and professing his "always love"...
To be fair, I didn't find anything after November, she has another man and is living with him, he siad he was happy for her, blah blah blah...and he wasn't professing to love me then either...but it still leaves me with some doubts...and the desire to talk with him...so far I am sitting on this...but for how long I don't know...he assured me even then he had not heard from her or contacted her...yet it appears it was him to make contact...and even asked if they could talk by phone so he could hear her voice...thank God she said email was okay but phone wasn't a good idea...sat and had myself a good cry becuase once again...I believed him...and I was a fool...
Do I still think this is going to work?...Yes...like I said that was before he could say he loved me...and I haven't seen anything since...that is the positive for me and I need to keep focused on that....
sorry for the side track...just sharing the struggle...
