just getting started here newly separated

[theotherhalf]

Welcome to a place that hurts more than anything you'll ever go through. Welcome to a place that will really help you get through it all.

You can't do anything right now, but what you can do is to: stop begging, pleading, pursuing, no crying, no relationship talk. Always be calm, even if you don't feel it inside! He is feeling cornered and smothered and those things (your reaction to things) will push him farther away.

lwb's advice is the best anyone can give you. Many will tell you to take this time to work on YOU and what YOU want out of live. As that is good advice to it is not what your heart wants to hear. You will want to only hear what will help bring him back. But listen to them. They are right. Because there is NOTHING you can do to controll what he is doing or what he will do.

Take care of yourself and be strong. You will get through.

Time will tell...