WOW, Lost, what a story. I really am sorry for you, welcome, you have come to the right place. You will get a lot of support and advice, there are quite a few experienced and wise DBers here, who have been through a lot. If you are talking about the marriagebuilders.com site, you are right there is some difference between that site and this one. In my opinion both give very useful info, but I think DB is more practical, goal oriented and it also focuses more on the work that can be done by one spouse when the other is not committed to saving the M.
I think besides getting valuable advices, your presence will also be appreciated given your perspective on things from the WAW point of view.
First and foremost, get the Divorce Remedy book and read it several times. Also start asking specific questions so that we can give you specific answers and start formulating some goals for yourself. You have to start working on yourself, to find out what things are there that you need to change about yourself so that you can be a better person for yourself and for your H as well. There are a few other WASs on this BB, you might be interested in reading through their posts too. (I will try to look up their threads for you). One of the best things that helped me and still does is to read the stories here, and I have been digging through the archives back until '99, because there are very valuable writings and advices in almost each thread. You will learn a lot by reading them. Still your most important guide should be the DB/DR book.
Hope I could help you, I am sorry you did not have any feedback until now, the weekends are quieter here, but it will get busier during the weekdays.
Again, we welcome you here, and know that you are not alone.
