No wonder your so empathetic! Thanks for the bump earlier.
My W and I are in a lot of pain, but she is considering posting in the infidelity forum. Perhaps from one shrink to another, you two could meet. I know she is devastated about what she has done and is fearful of losing her ability to practice. I know hearing from your H help me some.
I am very happy to haer things are going better for you. You have worked very hard and it is nice to see such positive results. Keep going! Be well.