morgan, thanks so much. I guess I am remaining quiet about boundaries because I don't know what I want at the moment. I don't know how much I can 'take'.

neph, just spent an hour reading up on heartbroken. I could have written those things myself. Well, not everything because her H has chosen her already. Thanks for pointing that out. I really felt for her seeing OW at school. Her OW was blatantly disrespectful. My H's OW either totally avoids me or cries when she sees me (not to me, but runs away and cries).