I wonder if H wonders what OW will be doing while he's not with her, too. I know on some level he doesn't exactly trust her, or at least he didn't used to.
lwb, you will have such a good time with your girls. its not the same, but I'm finding that it can be a lot of fun with just me and the kids at times. we make our own adventures out of things. if you want to have others along, any chance your folks would want to come, or maybe a friend? whatever you do, just make sure you do it, don't let these things pass you by....it would be easy for me to do that, almost like waiting for H to join us, or want to join us, or because the memories are too painful. I remember my mom asking if the kids and I wanted to come to a sheep shearing festival not long after h moved out and I cringed...no way could I sit there and watch all those happy families, knowing how awful things were for mine. time has helped with that.
neph, I can't remember, whereabouts in CA are you? I don't remember ever apple picking in CA when I lived there.
I don't think H will come around like that again this week. I think he realizes that it was a mistake, too. I do have a plan, though, if he does, and that is to get the f out of dodge. I'm not going to let it happen, not until he is done with her. I can't. I was so cavaelier about things last time, thinking it wouldn't hurt my detachment, if anything maybe it would scratch and itch and possibly remind him that things on that front can be very good between us. but it backfired, I did end up more attached to him/less detached. I ended up hurt again. don't get me wrong, it felt damn good at the time, but I am far too invested in him to allow it to happen again.
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M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
