Saffie, I have no definitive knowledge that the OM's W is in the know about the A.
But looking at the telephone records, OM called W from their residence quite frequently and regularly up until about mid-July - that is when the calls from their home pretty much ceased and then it it was only cell phone calls after that. I believe that indicates that the OM's W forced him out of the house or he walked out. Either way, I believe they are now separated -- so I would also guess she knows about the A, but maybe he left her in the dark about that.
I am continually tempted to contact OM's W, to see what she knows. But then I understand that action might make it difficult for her to get her own marriage back together, assuming she's trying to. (For all I know, she might be having an A of her own. Who knows?) I don't want to be involved in triggering actions that might end someone else's marriage (it's bad enough I contributed to my own marital problems), but the lack of knowledge is getting to me.
