D Coming...can't let go just yet..

[JMC]

I understand and agree. My W used to find a reason to call all the time (house, daughter, $), but now that we have sold the house she does not call as much. However, this also coincides with her meeting a guy while on a girls weekend (I snooped and found emails, pictures etc..).

I too realize this is her problem that she has to deal with. I have some trouble with the everything happens for a reason theory. We got married relatively late (me 34 and her 32), which I am attempting to associate with maturity I guess, our D is now out of college, etc.. I was looking forward to paying down our significant credit card debt and living a happy life together. We love to entertain and do things and people love to be around us.

Back to the theory - in past relationships I knew that perhaps I should not be in them (I was 24, she was 19 in one relationship, while another was clearly a rebound with another younger girl - I was 29 she was 22), but I really have a hard time seeing what could be the reason for my W and best friend to walk away after 13 years together.

Oh well, like you, I will continue to pray for guidance. I agree that it is good to know others are in the same sitch. The prospect of dating scares me as well - I would have been happy to live the rest of my life with this women and actually used to talk about a 50 yr anni - I would be 84 - ha!

Off to church right now and then try to keep busy - Sundays are always difficult.