He acts quite submissive to other men socially, i.e. he laughs a lot at what other guys say.
Yeah, I thought the same gay thing about my H, and this statement is SO him. He's also shy, embarrasses easily, and is physically awkward. He's made up for this in true achiever style by working out religiously. It's hard for him to make male friends...he gravitates to the ladies, where he is seen as a good listener.
I think in choosing non-threatening men, we also chose men who don't know how to assert their sexuality, for one reason or another. And when we shake things up, not only does it help us move on with our journey, it helps them to do the same.
