GF and X met during D's soccer game. It went well, it couldn't be a bad thing since GF and I are doing X a favor. It was civil and polite, the girls were excited to find out that GF was going to be watching them while I went to work.

Report from GF they were just perfect. They did what they were told and had a blast making dinner and crafts. I have to say my girls are very nice and behaved, I am proud to have them for my daughters.

The meeting of GF and X would usually make me worried and defensive towards X but I simply let those feelings roll right off my back and focused on the positive. The GF and X seemed to hit it off.

The bottom line for me is that I remained calm and had a smile on my face, I kept the grumpies away. I didn't ask about where she was going, why she would put herself before the girls, demanding to meet my GF, etc. I also did not play tit for tat, that is my cheeseless tunnel. For example, I was to meet and chat with the new babysitter before being hired by the X, the x agreed but in the end she hired by her without ever telling me a thing. My tit for tat attitude would have kept GF from meeting X, because I want the X to see what it is like to wear my shoes. I've been doing that since day one with the X and guess what? Itdoesn't work, ever but I keep chasing that cheeseless tunnel.

It was easy to do but I want to figure out a way to make it fair for me and not have her be so damn controlling. This part of X isn't about DBing, it has to do with her lack of control in her life, made up or not. I cannot help her in that department but I have a feeling that because her mother and I subsidize her income so much, she feels out of control. She choose to lead a certain lifestyle and she expects us to pay for it. I'd be happy to but then why don't the girls live with me since I can afford it? I wouldn't mind giving her the lifestyle she would like to live, but that was when she was my W.

Just some things I wanted to put down do cement the changes I've made toward X. She'll never see my side of the story or even empathize, but that is why I come here.

I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts,that laughter is the only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death