He's a pouter and a prima donna He actually DOES have a limp wrist He acts, as Mojo, put it "feminine top" People who knew him asked me if he was gay when they knew we were "friends" He is LD He claims to have had a happy childhood (which I believe because his parents are sweetie-pies) yet there is some huge hurt in his life that needs covering up with alcohol dependence. He absolutely refused to go see Brokeback Mountain ETA: When I first met H he was this flamboyant character that liked to dress in well cut suits from thrift shops (no money for the real deal) and wear matching ties and pocket hankerchiefs. He has more than once described a man to me as "attractive" as in You'd like X he's very attractive. He acts quite submissive to other men socially, i.e. he laughs a lot at what other guys say. His dad told me more than once that they'd always had him down as "not the marrying kind". When I think about it a lot of the excitement and flamboyance went out of his character pretty quickly after we married.
I confronted him with this idea one time, but he laughed outright and said NO. (But then he would wouldn't he if he's in denial). It could explain a lot about his avoidant behaviours and the way he will temporarily come out of his shell and then retreat again. Like he's saying "OK, lets give this another shot. " and then "Aaaargh, I can't hack it".
Fran
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