Mojo, I was thinking what you said, but I'm glad you said it first. I second it. We've been following your situation for a LONG time and know more background than many recent arrivals to this board. (And no all LD people are NOT gay.)
I'm thinking of that very close male friend of your H's who is almost on the same level as you in your H's life. Is that guy still in y'all's life?
Your H may be gay and may not fully realize and/or accept it. Since you're Catholic (you are, aren't you? I seem to remember that he was in the seminary) he may be trying to wish it away, ignore it, or pray it away.
I had a gay male friend who was married twice. I said to him, "I can understand once, but TWICE?" He said, "I wanted to be a father." He was a lovely guy. He and his second wife had a beautiful daughter. They divorced and he came out. But the whole family remained very close. His ex did said to him, "If you wind up with a woman, I will hunt you down and kill you." Hmmm...
Sorry, Karen, but I've had this idea about your H for a couple of years.
