Hi SB. I hope your H realizes what a special person you are for being honest about things on this bb. It is this blunt honesty that each of us say here that keeps us going. Most of the time, we know the answer to any question we post here, but yet we cannot put it into words. Then along comes someone with the right words at the right moment that allows us to understand ourselves a little better and gives us the strength to keep fighting for out marriages. I hope your H can see that.
What we are all going through is hard enough without a spouse being suspicious of what goes on here. This isn't AOL for petes sake. I feel a bond with everyone here. It is an anonymous bond, but a strong one.
My W the psychologist (unsure if I should call her that now...) has said that this kind of forum is great for what we are doing. And I agree. Just because he couldn't control his flirtations, doesn't mean you wouldn't be able to either. I haven't felt that you are flirting with anyone. I see a kind person who is in pain, but still tries to help others. Rare. And special.
I hope he follows through with seeking a C. Perhaps he wouldn't be as afraid of seeing one if you helped him pick one? My W is very grateful for the research I did to find our MC. She stopped her affair because of it.
