I don't know why they hold that back so long. I do remember being told to avoid arguments until we get to the technique. I wonder if they are just trying to make you go cold turkey for as long as possible. For us it worked. Once they taught us the argument technique we had pretty much stopped fighting. We haven't had an argument since the one we did as practice in the Post session. But that one was very effective.
That is something that H and I have found. We both feel like they could speed it up a bit. We are though in a different situation than most at Retrouvaille. We only have 6 years of R baggage to get through - as you know most of the other couples have decades of stuff - we keep saying how thankful we are that we didn't wait and that we are learning this stuff now. Several other couples admitted to arguing over this past week. I wonder if there is a way that they could incorporate that into the first follow up...all well. I am going to avoid all other arguments until then. Thanks for your insight! I appreciate it!
Me: 34 H: 39 M: 7 yrs H A 12/05-8/07
If what you say surprises me, I must have been assuming something else was true. - M. Wheatley
