I don't know what phase we are in. I definately don't feel a last resort anything is needed right now, but you are right. I need to do some thinking as to how *I* feel about him coming and going. When we first talked about him moving to his dad's, he promised to keep me posted about when this would happen. He did this, as promised, and gave me 100% decision making on when the kids saw who, let me decide my plans, then worked around them.
I guess I am confused since I have given him the 'I am letting you go free' speech, should I be ok with him going where he needs to go to feel comfortable, and not smothered. If he is just going to his dad's (and not with friends or OW), then I guess the space is good for him. I just don't know what to think.
