One thing I learned from my infidelity is that it caused me to assume that because I behaved that way, other people did too. I accused my H in jealous "rages" before he left that he was cheating on me with a couple of people. (The fact that he ended up doing so with one of them doesn't help anything but at the time, nothing was going on.) This led me to be suspicious of his behaviour like your H is doing to you now.
Afterwards, when your H saw how it made you feel, I think he regretted doing what he did. He told you he loved you and he said he wouldn't come here again unless you invited him to do so.
I think that his visiting this place in general would only be a good thing because he would see what exactly we do here. I think he would be surprised that we don't just pump each other up here, we provide a lot of constructive criticism and we work very hard to help ourselves and other people to dig deeply into their R's and M's to find the problems and work on them. We don't place the blame on anyone, we don't think your H is a horrible person, we focus on solutions.
That was one reason I thought it would be good for my H to come here, I knew you guys would give him as much support as you've given me and he needs it just as much as I do.
You asked everyone to be your Valentine and you've supported and encouraged people here and made them feel better about themselves and in return, they made you feel better about yourself. Sure it could be construed as "flirting" but why was all of this happening here on the BB? So you could feel better about yourself and work harder to get your H back!!! Every single person here is working towards the same goal and that's comforting. I think it should be extremely comforting to your H that you participated here even if you flirted because it's a safe environment to do so. Floyd was working to get his W back as hard as you were working to get your H back. Our S's should be flattered to know that we're that devoted - I know mine was. To him it was a proof of my love and devotion to him when he saw all of this.
Now, just one little constructive criticism to you here since that's what we do. Why were you so defensive about him reading the BB? I know in earlier posts you've mentioned that he might come here and you've shared posts with him... so why the "scuffle"?
I wouldn't mind at all if your H read this post, SB.
