H wants D

[forward]

"Like you have been erased? I know what you mean here. I moved to H's town, with his family and friends.... I feel alone from those people and thrown away by H. I struggle with that...."

Yes--but in my case, it is now that I got pregnant and had a kid, H ran like hell.

"Why would they try to help him?"
Because financially, H is clueless and they tend to overprotect their kids. Plus that is what H said. I think they were at a lawyer this morning. I could be wrong, but maybe not. MIL's statements about finding someone new, finding a group of people to help me, etc., suggest some kindness but also pushing me towards closure.

and I think they had dinner w/OW tonight as well. This tells me that H wants her accepted in family. I don't think they are too pleased but H--the rebel man--is not going to care.

Funny thing is, divorce is more the norm than staying together so H is actually following the norm! Maybe I will point that out to him, since he thinks he's being very radical.