We have missed you on the boards. I'm glad you are posting again. I'm sorry things have not been going well for you. You deserve so much better. I am getting angry at all these women who treat my friends like sh*t.
I think it's nice that you say she deserves half the money as your wife. But you also deserve for her to act like a wife. And she's not doing that. I don't understand the idea of you living in the basement when you pay all the bills. You need to give her some bad consequences for what she's doing. You seem to be making all her wishes come true.
Without consequences people do whatever they feel like doing no matter who it hurts. She needs to make her decision and go one way or the other. I think even in Utah bigamy is only for men to have more than one wife. I don't think a wife can have more than one husband.