been glancing over your thread the past couple of days...tried to get the gist of whats been going on by glancing over your older threads too.
I know it's tough a long crappy road.
some things you point out about h being contradictory...he says he wants you to be suspisious...there is a difference between being susspicious and accusatory..and currently you are being accusatory...(ie...let me see your email etc.) compiling evidence against him though you feel you are doing it to protect yourself...are you really??? seeking out and holding onto such "evidence" is not going to get you closer to h.
piecing is a difficult thing...hell just look at my threads..there are other ways of being susspisious without pressing to see e-mails and what not..simply calling him at random times or asking him to call you...keeping it light and easy.
I know there's a whole lot more that I could say that would be productive but my head just isn't there right now.
is it possible for you to just give h the benifit of the doubt...sit back and just enjoy the time you do spend together...and let it be his responsibility to stay away from ow.