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Hi Everyone,

Sorry I havn't posted in a while.
My heart starts pounding when I think about the past month.
In a nutshell, A month ago I chose to move out because w said things wern't going anywhere and she needed it. She called it a seperation, I called it an unwanted seperation. I had her agree to two months then I come back either way. I lived in our camper 6 miles out of town. On a farm where i drive Sugar Beet truck once a year for harvest.

Work is busier than all summer (6 days a week), taking my class one night a week 3hrs(it comes w/homework too), w was done doing daycare 2wks ago (looking for work), have had to use the credit card to get by, school has started,.... feel like i'm being ripped to shreads.

during this she said she spoke w/me as much as him. 2wks ago she went out w/girls b-day. D16 went out so I crashed on couch. Woke up later and w was hugging me. Had been drinking. she said put me to bed so i did. she wanted more. I resisted then did it. It was absolutly amaising. next day seemed to want to try but me still live out there. Then suggested taking kids to drive in in MN before winter. Awsome, I made plans, got hotel and went. She even laid her head on my shoulder during movie. Next day went shopping at outlet mall by Minneapolis. Next day after work talked to her and all bets are off. She said she can't commit to us.
last weekend i was thinking of moving back in cause i really didnt think it mattered. She told me that he was coming to Minneapolis on 9-19 for 5 days to see her. Tuesday after work i pulled the camper back home and she was pissed. I started to move back in spare room and she said if you move back in there i want d now. So i agreed to go in basement. basement has two rooms one is kitchen minus stove. tile is green and old cracked.

She is with om right now until tues or wed, I dont even know, i wrote it on calender.

I want to know if she will have anything figured out when she returns. Tempted to tell her to piss off I'm tired of this.

Before she left s8 and i filled her car with gas, got carwash, and a couple of pops for the drive.

On her way there she took a wrong turn in Minneapolis and couldn't fig out how to get to airport. she called d20 they coulnt fig out. So she calls me at work on cell I happened to be in office and heard it ring. I helped her get back on track. (What a nice husband showing her way to her lover. @%#@$#)

I really think i'm not going to agree to her terms on sharing the main part of the house.

Since she isn't working she says i have all the power. I tell her its our money we are married. Don't want her to be with me cause of money. I don't want to be the boss with the money. I want to share life and love.

Backing up a little bit, she told her parents and friends about om. thats when d20 and inlaws came down hard on her. thats before we went out to movie w/kids.

Now she says this is her quest and its her decision not inlaws or kids. She does not want to look back, doesn't want old marrage. BUT also doesn't want a d either. Doing this because it's her choice.



PS: I thought i saw them in our town after dinner on my way back to work. I followed car into gas station, it wasn't them. I was fully prepared to have a little heart to heart with om.
I think i'm beside myself these days.

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