I think it sounds good. There is risk in everything and those thoughts went through my head but all the sites say the same thing, that when the LBS lets go and the WS has to use the OP for all emotional needs it weekens the affair. It is a difficult thing to see the WS get 100% emotional needs met but it also strengtehns your detachment.
Since we are playing the speculation game (lol) I vote for #1. This is also the same for us. My H is also homeless as you know and probably is wearing out his welcome and also wants to fill his down time with kids but he must abide by my schedule. I also know my H spends time at OP place at night and OP work in day when he is not withkids. He admitted it like so what? Crazy like 17 years olds!!! Um, married folks with kids do not do this. I barely have time for two jobs, two kids, two classes to even see a movie, but I will always have time for you and this community!!! My saving grace!
So what do they do to fill their time now that they no longer mow lawns, watch Saturday morning cartoons, or take a walk with the stroller if their OP are not available and none of their friends will see them? Well, my H goes to the book store, runs, naps in his car, sees a movie, walk around outlet stores, sits in coffe shops. Because he is in affair, not a real R he has to live half of a life avoiding all of those who were in his real life. And I guess I am to blame for him losing everything? Yeah right.
I wish you could talk to him without resentment. He is still so hurt by his conviction. How did he keep his job after that happened? Do they know about his arrest? Is he at a year round school?
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Me:38 H:39 MLC M:10 R:23 years D6 S3 Bomb: Easter, 2007 "Every day may not be good, but there's something good in every day."
