LWB, You're right, waiting to see if you're going to be the 'winner', is lovely. Actually, at the moment I'm not sure I want the prize -- perhaps he's really a booby prize! But the fact that he is waffling between his wife of 22 years, with a successful career, a great mom, etc. and the OW who is the exact opposite of me, is SO INSULTING! Talk about feelings of resentment. His ambivalence is makng me ambivalent!
I, too am enjoying GAL. I could tell him I was going away for a week and I don't think he'd care. But I would have fun, so I don't care what he thinks. I went out last night to my sister's while he stayed home and passed out. He asked me this morning if I had a good time (and what we talked about) and I said yes. Didn't really tell him what we talked about.
Whitelight, Thanks for the inspiring comments. I had not realized this but you're right, I took this crisis and turned it into an opportunity. I feel great about that. No matter what happens between H and me, I know I'll be ok.
And he has done nothing for himself. He's putting off getting help with his drinking for as long as he can. I keep telling him it would be in his favor to get help NOW. I think getting him to a counselor will help with that. First I think he needs to help himself, then our M (if he is indeed interested in doing that).
As far as protecting myself, OW was tested a few months ago ... get this, when she was incarcerated for DUI. (Actually she was jailed because she skipped out on her court date, then had to serve time when she finally turned herself in. Prisons test for STDs and she tested clean.) HE PICKED A WINNER DIDN'T HE!
