Now I've done it... again

[nephartiti]

Thanks, Donna. My L says that here in Cali, there is nothing I can do about no contact with OW. This makes me hesitate to put anything in writing. Right now, I have complete control unless he makes the effort to cancel direct deposit. With the kids, my L says I don't have to let him take them. Under the circumstances, I can justify this based on their age, the fact they are nursing, and he has no residence. Even though I know he is staying with her, he insists he is living out of his van-not suitable quarters for overnight stays w/kids. If he really wants it, he will be forced to file and get his visitation rights in writing, but he's too caught up in OW right now. He rarely asks to see his kids. Last weekend was a fluke.

I've been very careful with the money I have. If he doesn't give me a dime next month, I will be ok while my L goes after him. Plus, I have credit cards which he doesn't have. He has no credit on his own. He is out of his share of the money. OW will have to support him completely for the next two weeks. I'm gonna let them deal with the pressure, I don't have to do anything right now. They are creating their own pressure on their R. She's going to get tired of supporting him, and he's going to start missing his kids. At least, that is my hope.