Stories don't always end

[Aud31]

BeingMe,

I know you've given this everything you have--I think your plan fits the LRT, and it's a road you need to take now to move forward in the best way possible for you. I wish you peace, love and happiness, and believe that you will do the right thing. You and your H are in my prayers--take care.

[Concerned_Listener]

Being,
I hope this is the first of many 2X4's for your H. Separate bedrooms is a strong message.

He needs to get his priorities straight and start acting like a H.

CL

[ACJ]

BM in recent times you have been there for me. I wish I could be there for you in the same way. I've been where you are but did not recognise it at the time b/c it was post reconciliaton last time. I did nothing b/c I didn't know i had to. I ended up with a H who had yet more PAs and as you know is now living with someone nearly half his age. I know you won't make the same mistake I did b/c you already have put actions into motion. Just wanted you to know I am thinking of you and hope that you and your H can finally work this out.

[BeingMe]

Thanks again, for the lovely comments, and support! I am doing well despite the fact that I'm turning 50 tomorrow!!!! Omigosh!

My H has said nothing further ... he occasionally gives me a peck on the lips 'hullo' or 'good-bye' and we still hang out, going to dinner or movie. We no longer sleep in the same room, or hold hands when out. I have no hope, really, that he will pull some rabbit out of a hat. He will let me go without a fight (I feel so 'special'. NOT!), and that will be that, so I will continue with my plan to continue studying, find a job here or back in our previous city, and move at the end of the school year. I can think of nothing more I can do.

[cat03]

I think you are worth a "300" kind of a fight but some people just dont' have it in them (I'm sure --my H corroborated this feeling on his very own-- that if the sitches woud've been reversed, my H would've drop our M and me like a hot potato back in 2005 when he abandoned our home and had the A)

I sure wish something would snap on that ol' head of his though, and if he doesn't he's a fool for loosing someone like you. Will keep you in my prayers honey)))))))))))))))

[BeingMe]

Thanks Cat! You make me blush! I loved the movie, BTW!

I'm going to be okay ... in fact, better than okay. I realise now that there is little point in standing for a M, when the effort is so lopsided ... it will just fail again, and again. I don't even resent my H ... he is who he is. He has to want to change ... I certainly can't control it, or force it. I did not even give him an ultimatum. Just told him that it's pointless sharing a bedroom as if we are roommates, so may as well have our own rooms. And, it went from there ... may as well go our separate ways .... in no hurry for divorce, but not willing to live this lukewarm kind of M, yadda yadda. That's when he said he loves parts of me ... sheesh!

Anyway, tomorrow is the BIG 5-0, so I will have my own solitary ceremony, where I will let go of the last half century of hurt, pain, and stupidity (from my H, my family, and myself). I will live my life for me now (and my last kid at home, D14). I need more autonomy, authenticity, and adventure. I will no longer allow others to define who I am (and let the definition from my childhood drag me down anymore), or feel the need to explain my actions, or sacrifice myself to the alter of my M and religion. No more unfounded guilt, no more resentments, or obsessing over things that will mean nothing in 50 years time. Oh yeah! Time for some BIG changes.

[ACJ]

happy Birthday BM.

I made myself similar promises in April when I was 40. It was very empowering!

[JAK58]

Happy Birthday BM.

Those sound like wonderful objectives. Im'e sure the next 50 will be fabulous!!!!!

JAK

[cat03]

H*A*P*P*Y B*I*R*T*H*D*A*Y you hot thing you)))))))))

Have a blast hon)))))

[Phoenix_spark]

Happy Birthday! Wishing you good changes and good choices this year. Pray about what you need to do and listen. If it is time, it is time. Don't do it out of anger, but do it out of knowledge and peace of mind.

If I was there I would take you to Swiss Chalet for your birthday. Not sure if those are on the west coast.