we love lissie

[Valentine]

Actually Amy, your post kinda weirded me out.

this thread is for Lissett...to show our love and support for her struggles in whichever way we want to.

the forum and the boards are not intended for in-fighting.

Look Amy, we are all in the same boat here...we are all here to help one another...so lets call a truce and stick to that, shall we?

there are too many people here, myself included, who really come for support b/c outside people do not understand what is happening or why we are standing, dbing or anything else.

I want to believe in my heart of hearts that we are all here, ultimately, to support one another, to be kind to one another while the rest of the world snickers behind our back, slams the door in our face and forsakes us. For many of us this is our ONLY place of refuge.

Peace to you,
Valentine

[AmyC]

Hi AmyC,

I understand your feelings about this, but I don't understand your anger. I will say this out of respect and I truly hope you hear this the way I intend it. You're anger gets the best of you at times. I hope you can find peace within. You have so much to offer.

Mickey

Mickey ~ Nothing I have written previously on this thread was written in anger. Fig doesn't make me "angry" and for a long time I just thought she was particularly sweet. But between her bulldog-like defense of Lissett when she perceived someone to have offended her to her continual waxing poetically about someone who is simply human like the rest of us, my opinion slowly began to turn from one of amusement towards the realization that if a male poster spoke of Lissie that way, we'd all be waving a red flag and thinking him obsessive. Call it what you want as condescendingly as you wish, but I said what I wanted to say having no idea of the landslide of emails I would receive in support of it proving that it obviously isn't just me that thinks something is amiss. If you or anyone else has anything they'd like to say to me on this subject let me know and I'd be glad to send you my email address.



Amy

[Mickey]

I apologize for sounding condescending.

Mickey

[Lissie]

I vow for this to be my last post.

I am sick in my heart, that this is the way this had ended up.

I am sorry that your Inbox was full of emails Amy, it hurts me that people join the bandwagon, and I can just imagine who they are.

I hate that a place that has been for love and support, has to turn into hurt.

I hate that when I opened my email today, it was full. It was full of people saying things about you Amy. I deleted them and did not respond.

I never have had a problem with you Amy, actually I will always remember the help you have given me.

I do have a problem with people not knowing the real deal.

and the fact that you said oh, the "sisterhood" means you don't know the real deal.

We all take Fig under our wing, not b/c she can't handle herself, but b/c she is the baby of our group.

She may be pit bullish, she may say she wants to marry us, but deep down inside we know, that if anyone tried to hurt any of us she would be the first one there to defend, us.

Why?

B/c she never had that herself, with her family.

Is she a bit obsessive? I think she is wonderful, and kooky.

I think she loves all of us the same way.

I think it takes her time to forgive, when someone has hurt us, and that is just the natural side of her.

I tell Althea, on more than one occasion, I want to marry her.

And kiss her on the mouth. I tell BBA I am going to marry her, and we will love happily ever after.

I tell the same things to Always, 14, and Valentine, and i used to say the same thing to Jeanette. I think even BND has been proposed to by me, and so has Mickey.

But we ALL KNOW that it is in fun, and in love.

I think what happened here, was that Figgy is not afraid of the backlash, or she just knows that it is not a big deal and posts those thing anyway.

I am leaving this board, hopefully in a positive light.

I hate "rumors" spite, gossip.

I believe in lifting people up and praying for them when I feel they are at their lowest.

I am sorry Amyc, that you feel something was weird, and you had to post about it, in big red letters.

I am sorry that the people that don't understand, had to waste time out of their day, and email you to keep cutting someone down.

I have love for the people here. I am sorry, that b/c someone defends me so much, it makes others uneasy and full of hate.

This world is full of such pain all the time, I don't know how love can be seen as bad too.

even kooky, love.


I have made shitload of mistakes, and I have posted things to others that i have later regretted, but I never meant intentional harm.

It makes me feel like a hypocrite, b/c I was the one involved in an emotional affair, I was the one, that did something everyone hates, and yet I didn't get backlash on the board.(behind my back, probably yes)

But my friend, that loves me, and didn't hurt me, gets it?

I am not starting a debate here. I will not start it with anyone.

I feel like my time here has come to an end, and Lord knows I have tried to leave before, but my love for you guys, and the help you always gives me keeps me coming back.

But now that i know that the "secret emails" are destructive instead of positive it is time to leave.

I am sorry this bothered you so much Amy. I hope things for you only improve, and as always as I promised you, you and your family are in my prayers

smooooooooooooooches and licks to my beautiful peeps

[sofaraway]

First off, Love you lissie bean and sorry your thread went in strange directions, I know how much that bothers you.

For all of us who know Lissie, shame on us for allowing a wonderful thread to take that direction rather than taking this stuff offline. How many times will we all make the same mistake.

Figgy, you already know how I feel about you. For the rest of you, adoration and loyalty and you choose to call it freakish? How many of us would absolutely love to have a person in our loves with a heart as big as Figgy has? I know I would, and do.... Reality is we all have our opinions about others, its how we choose to express those opinions that is the problem. We all have email right? Use it.

Amy, you have been a wonderful guide to me many many times on this board. However, you of all people know better and at some point have to take the accountability for that. I personally love your ability to speak your mind, as you know I am big on that, but do it the right way.

Jack my boy, you to know better. You knew when you posted the pedestal comment it would spark controversy, do not deny that. You are very intelligent when you write and sometimes write to lead....tsk tsk tsk. Not for nothing, but of all people on this board, and I do mean all, you know how Lissie feels about keeping her threads loving and caring.

So to end this post in the manner in which I believe this thread to be intended. Lissi, it is a privilege to have you in my life, and for you to allow me to be part of yours. Friendship is a beautiful thing and what gets us through the insanity that our lives can be. You my dear are not perfect, you are not a god, but for a mere mortal, you are one very amazing and special woman who is so obviously admired and adored by many many people....and I am one of them.

So lets all play nice and not get into any more pissing contests and try and be happy adults together, or at least respectful one's.

Ian

[Frosty]

if a male poster spoke of Lissie that way, we'd all be waving a red flag and thinking him obsessive.



Amy

AMEN!!!

[cire2]

pissing contests

If I remember correctly...

Liss, you came here and took when you needed, please don't leave when giving back should be your payment.

Amy, logic doesn't always dictate common sense...

love to all

cire

[bambam1970]

I just don't understand why anyone has to have an opinion on how others interact with each other.

How hard is it to just stay off a thread if you don't like it?

As I tell my children, name calling gets you nowhere.

Lissie - you are a dear. Good luck!

Fig - don't know you well, but do know your a good friend to many! Kudos to you for that!

AmyC - You did this same thing in one of Jazz's threads. My opinion is that it isn't necessary. If you are weirded out or disagree, than just don't visit the thread. Speaking your mind is not always a good thing.

Again...good luck Lissie!

[Frosty]

Because, what can we all really control, Dbers?

Pretty much only who we let lick our lung butter off, but who's counting?

[LisaLost]

Just sending hugs to Lissie and everyone here on the board
(((HUGS))))

Love<lisa