Okay, how do I address all of the very valid points the rest of you have made?
U, thanks for checking in. H and I had a long discussion just the other day about "skeletons", mostly focussed on what I may or may not have "done" during our dark times.
He spoke of having "nothing left to hide" with great relief. I, of course, had precious little to hide to begin with.
When I asked him what I could do to ensure that I didn't further "enable him" (his words! he blamed my backing off, giving him space, not questioning him for "enabling" his EA ). That's when he said to be more suspicious, to question, to verify, to check. These were HIS suggestions people!
And as for his weakness and fear-based living, U, I didn't really SEE the pattern until recently. But it's been there for a LOOOONG time. I don't know, it may well stem back to (newly revealed) dysfunction in his family of origin, in which serious problems were ignored to the point that my H has no conscious memory of them!!!
U I like the way you put the "forgiveness talk"...I did ask if there were any more surprises in store for me...but it probably didn't come across in the kind manner you suggested. BTW, he said "NO".
). That's when he said to be more suspicious, to question, to verify, to check. These were HIS suggestions people!
