Shinybear,

I'm not up to date on your sitch, but saw your posts and came over here. It sounds like you have a lot on your plate and are going through some very serious things with your H.

I may be very off the mark, and I apologize if I am, but it seems like you aren't giving H a chance to suceed. H seems like a wounded bird, and I am in no means saying that he hasn't brought this on himself, but I think what you are doing is just chasing down some cheeseless tunnels. Is confronting him about the emails allowing him to deal this in his own way? It seems like you are taking care of all his dirty work.

Can you catch him doing good things? Praise him for what he does well? Ignore the bad for a bit? Do what Floyd says and take a blind leap of faith and trust him?

You sound like a very strong woman, shinybear, can you direct that strength in a different way? Being his cheerleader?

As I said, I could be off the mark, just throwing in some thoughts.

Jackie