Funny, DD plays soccer, and I helped coach her U9's team. I just find it a little boring to watch. Not to say it isn't a great sport or anything, just personal choice.
My youngest D plays in U10's and my second D in U15's. My eldest D is just horses all the way like her mum!!!! Youngest D is more horses than soccer but she loves all sport.
My son is now getting into his rugby as well - he shows no fear!!!
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Just got back from my mums, went to visit my dad in hospital and he is doing really well. Hopefully he is out tomorrow (Mon).
Had a great weekend with DD. We got home about 1 hour ago, and W was in her room. She came down a few minutes ago to ask whether she could have DD sleep over her friends again tonight, and I said yes. So I have only seen W for 2 min this weekend, and I feel pretty good. The less I see or talk to her the better. Funny that.
I have the house to myself to watch the Rugby later tonight (Aust v Fiji), then an early start in the morning for work.
I wonder what the avoidance is all about. It is only 4pm, and W was in such a hurry to leave, like she has been whenever I am in the house. I suppose it could go two ways, either she still hates me so much that she cant be in the same house as me, or her feelings are still strong enough to make her feel uncomfortable around me. When we were arguing, and I was constantly on her back about things, she did not avoid me as much.
Since doing the 180 and not calling or txt her at all over the last several weeks, and being as nice as I can, and getting back to my normal self (the one she fell in love with, confident, happy, fit etc) she has avoided me more than before.
Go figure. Maybe she has really moved on with OM, and wants things to end alot quicker.
Who knows?
One difficult thing that I did encounter today, was when I was talking to my mum and dad at the hospital, they are 100% behind me with the divorce, and have sort of hinted if I was ever stupid enough to take my W back they would not be impressed. They have had issues since the day I met her, not only with W but with her whole family.
You would think that if we did get back together, my probelms would be over, but from my conversation with my parents, I think my drama's would be just beginning
My parents actually do care a lot for my H even after what's happened. They see that he has really tried to right everything and he still wears his hair shirt!!! I think a lot may have come from them seeing just how much being without my H would have meant to me though. When it came to my sister's H they kept quiet until my sister couldn't bare to stay in the M any longer and then they showed how they truly felt about him, which was not good. He never had an A 'til things were pretty much over but he treated my sister like dirt all through their M. Your parents only want to protect you and see you happy. You will always be their little boy.
I am lucky and have had support from most people - funnily enough it has been friends with comments likke "well I couldn't stay with my H if he did that!!!" that have been the hardest to cope with. I just avoid those people but you can't really avoid your parents.
Saying that I avoid my H's family like the plague after all the probs I had with BIL.
Saffie
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
Your parents only want to protect you and see you happy. You will always be their little boy.
Funny, I have served in the Navy, done a stint in the Persian Gulf, coup in Fiji and now the job that I do is pretty much serving my country and protecting our way of life, but they will always see me as their little boy. My mother still wields a big stick but lets DD get away with everything. DD also dobs me into her when she doesn't get her way, the little suck. I like it though.
What is your take on the avoidance part by a S after everything has been pleasant for several weeks? I don't want to look into it too much, but I am curious. I have been as nice as can be, but the nicer I am, and the more I GAL and keep to my 180 the more she doesn't want to be around me.
Even if she was happy with OM and wants to start a new life, you would think that the first step for her would be to reconcile as friends (for DD's sake, and for the divorce to be civil etc). It would be in her best interest to do it that way, you would think. I have not shown her any interest in wanting to get back together, so she shoudn't be afraid of showing any feelings that could be taken the wrong way.
Maybe I need a coffee instead.............and stop thinking about it
