I was 40 too when I had my daughter, 38 when her brother was born. The average age of a mother (in the pre-contraception days) having her youngest child was 42. There's no need to worry. What your baby boy has which mine don't is older siblings that will fill in and do the high-energy things that young parents could do. You're a good mum Karen and you have the added benefit of experience.
As to everything else - yeah life can be pretty bleah sometimes. But you are holding a heck of a lot together right now.
Being married to an LDH sucks big time it really is hard to figure out what the heck is going through their heads. I can't quite remember but is this your first baby with your now-H? If it is maybe he's not quite sure what he should do, he couldn't handle the whole sex idea while you were pg could he? So maybe he just hasn't got his head back in the right place. I know it is a lot to deal with because of the potential rejection but I think you should initiate - he is most likely looking for some kind of clue from you.
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
