Thanks AMD. I do need to get that book because I have seen other posters recommend it....
Did your H have a specific cause that started the decline? That is the other reason that I wonder if mine is in a MLC. There really wasn't anything going on for the last several months...no major birthday (we are past 40), no family or friends deaths, no major job change or additional stressors at the job (although job has always been stressful)..... I would almost feel better (than what, I don't know) if I saw a cause..
But maybe I am just searching for somthing rational to explain his behavior....it could be a long search...a long, empty handed search....