BTW - I do agree with the DB coach about refraining from saying something to the ILs about H or OW. While there may be exceptions - blood is thicker than water.....
I have been very close to my ILs for 25 years and in fact, knew them before H. They have always treated me like a D.
They called me after H told them of our impending D. They said they loved me and still wanted me in their family.
However, I know that at Thanksgiving time, H will be sitting at their table instead of me....blood is thicker than water.....
I don't blame them for this...but he is their son.
