Breton - I don't know, but it sounds like you handled it well. I don't think there is a problem with telling him that you need space. DBing doesn't mean that you do whatever he wants or allow him to control you. If you need space - take it. It sounds like it is a good idea.
I am in a similar situation as you - only I don't get the bad mood. I get nothing. No emotion, little to no communication, no signs of missing me, constant ignoring, no indication at all that this is affecting him. It is hurtful.
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I move back and forth between not knowing what I want--would it be for best? maybe
Is this a decision that you need to make right now? Certainly if H files, protect your interests...but if you are going back and forth, that indicates to me that you are not ready to make a decision. Just because he is moving or wants to move fast doesn't mean that you have to. Don't feel forced to make decisions that you are not ready to, if there is no reason to....
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But H has OW and I do not--he likely will not get lonely.
I feel the same way that you do here. Between friends that have stuck by him and, what I strongly suspect is the OW, when will he miss me? But then I do read other posts here and get a sliver of hope - WAS coming home after affairs. So I hold on to my sliver, but go about trying to live my life.
You sound like you are going through a rough period right now. What can you do that may help to get your mind off of this for a few hours?
This may have been posted somewhere else, but does the MIL have an issue with you? Does she hurt or help your situation?
