Let's put a new coat of paint....

[sage]

Talked to H about it, D's comments, and my dream. Even got into a bunch of other stuff (he agreed to the financial open book ), without arguing or things getting too tense.

It seems best when I share with him the things that are bothering me, how others are feeding into my fears etc.

So a bunch of "tough stuff" dealt with for one Sunday, and no sense of distancing or set back.

Are we breaking all the DB guidelines here or what?

Shiny

SB -- Hey, DB'ing is about "what works" right? I think in the beginning of DB'ing, it's advised (and makes sense) to be more of a closed book -- keeping thoughts and anxieties to oneself -- both to avoid the "pursuing" behavior and also to be somewhat mysterious -- but, I think once you get to piecing and S. is back "in the fold" one has to start getting some stuff out on the table.

Hope you are doing ok with the ups and downs!

Sage