I feel for you b/c I know exactly how this feels..it cuts right through you, gosh I know the hurt!! My H use to rub it in my face until I insisted he move out for I couldnt take his cake eating anymore.
I have not read your thread but I can see your being strong for your girls. That alone says alot about you. I will read up on you to be able to get a better handle on your stich.
It does seem like your W is moving on the jet train to D so fast after the bomb.