I had hoped you were right, and it was just SRS coming in and checking on me. It isn't though. SRS received another complaint from good old Dick.
A part of the issue, S is depressed about loosing our home, not having enough money for a "cool" car, feeling low and sad about all that is going on, along with being constantly bombarded by Dick, who has been demonizing me any way he can in his eyes. S is showing more anger, has been trying to play both parents against each other. However, I won't play, which again, his reponse is anger, an anger against me.
Also, I've had to reign him in, while keeping closer tabs on him, which he is revolting against, which also makes it easier for him to listen to Dick. He's playing right into Dick's hot little hands and doing exactly what Dick wants.
Dick is trying to gain custody of S, though a round about way. Dick doesn't want the responsibility of the children, he doesn't even want them..... he is just out to cause me greater pain. He's a sick, sorry, excuse for a human being....
Yet, with all that he is doing, it only shows me how desperate and how miserable he really is.
Well.... I'm sorry for the vent. I have to make a few phone calls to see what I have to do next in order to make it through this process.
Take care of you, God Bless
Love,
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
so hard for me to read your threads sometimes, dear Laughing. I can't believe how the trials go on and on and on. The bad guy winning out........the court system screwing you over.......and the truth always hidden.
I know it works out somewhere along the way..........but you, my dear, could use a break of a bit of some peace in your life.
I often think of you. You are in my thots and prayers.
who am I to complain.......
hugs to you by the millions
brue
I'm alive, I'm happy - why shouldn't I tell the world I've got my head screwed back on just fine. Life is good for the Brue!
Has SRS ever found a complaint of Dick's justified? When do they stop and realise he is playing them and that there is no validity to his complaints? Don't they have more serious cases to consider? Your son is a teen, and teens have problems (I know none who don't have some issues through their teen years), and his is compounded by your idiot XH. Continue to not play that game. You have to be the one who is consistent. Your son will appreciate that one day.
Just know that this will all be a part of the past .... the kids will grow up, and then Dick can stand on his head and whistle through his behind, and will not be able to do a darn thing to control you or the kids (unless they want to). You may still have many battles to fight (I hope not, but life is a freaking battlefield sometimes, isn't it), but his time will come.
Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Laughing, Who wouldn't be depressed losing the one home you dearly loved? What the heck does your xh think his part in all of this is? He left you absolutely no choice in the matter. As for the SRS, I would question them about all of this because it's really starting to look like harassment. Dick and Jane need to find something else to do w/their time and it should be coming up real soon in the court w/her issues.
I'm so sorry that this saga continues. I don't think you'll ever have any peace until the kids are grown. This man is a piece of work.
I'm praying for all of you and I do hope that God is really listening tonight for you need all of the help you can get.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Today, I recieved a "verified Motion to Change Custody" in the mail. On October 4th, I'll be going back to court to face the following charges:
There is no hot water in the residence. The minor child "S" has to take cold showers, and the "mother" and D go the Mother's place of employment to take hot showers.
There is no working cook stove in the home. There is one there but it is either not hooked up or unusable.
The respondent/mother told the minor child, "S" that he could not eat in the home as all the food belongs to her.
The respondent/mother is unstable and verbally abusive to the children.
Respondent/mother favors "D" over "S" and will not help fix "S's" car, but purchases "D" (who is 14) a car.
If "S" goes and lives with his father, respondent/mother has told him he cannot even take his clothes or personal effects.
The minor child "S" wishes to reside with his father and he does not wish to remain in this volatile environment.
The home living envirnment with respondent/mother is not an appropriate place for either child and it is in the children['s best interest to live with petitioner/father.
The parties were ordered to obtain psychological evaluations and the court and counsel need to review them.
That it is in the best interest of the minor children that petitioner/father be granted residential custody of the minor children and that the minor children live with him forthwith.
The parenting time schedule has already been prepared:
Respondent/mother to have parenting time for one half of the Christmas Break, Spring Break and 4 weeks in the summer and any time she is in the area of the father's residence.
It's so ordered.......
Help! Yes, Snodderly, I need help.
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
It is true the hot water tank did not work right away.... although it has been repaired. What took so long was to get a plumber in to repair the sewer line... which was backing up. The landlord could afford to pay to have these repairs, and I had both items repaired out of my pocket...
The stove works, I don't know what the heck he's talking about.
The food in the refriderator IS the children's food.... I don't often eat at home because of my work schedule.
It is Dick who has refused to buy parts for S's car.... I purchased new tires, a couple of oil changes, plugs, wires, rotor, cap, air filter, and then replaced the cap and rotor a second time when S decided to go through a deep mud puddle.
The car, well, S has it now, and drives it more frequently that D does..... I traded a non working vehicle for a working vehicle... I didn't actually buy it.
When the hot water was out, we did go take hot showers where I worked.... D went with me in the evenings, and S went in the mornings, because he didn't want to shower at night... which meant double the work, because I had to clean and disinfect the shower after each use.... it would have been easier on me if I had told S to shower in the evening. While I was in the shower, D received guitar lessons from my friend who happens to work second shift at the store.
I hate this.... why can't he just leave us well enough alone?
Laughing
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you.........
Laughing, My first questionis who is telling your h what is going on in your new home? Is the child doing this so that he/she can go live with the father?
I hope that you've kept all of your receipts and can use the plumber and owner of the place as witnesses. This stupid @sshole is crazy. I knew that if he came back for a visit, he would be stirring up the pot again. He's never nice w/o a turn around of nasty business.
It also sounds like he's talking about the current "jane" in his life when you read the allegations. I sure do hope you can get this cleared up this time. I think I would point out that this is a constant harassment case and you want to be reimbursed for your pain, anguish and court costs.
I will keep you in my prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Lifting you and your children in prayers as you are hit once again.
~ swl
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
