I am fortunate to be here on this board. I have ben on another one where I was essentially told that my "conbstant" questions about what H is thinking and feeling were inappropriate, and I had to focus solely on me. I m working on me, but I still have all of those thoguths of him: what is he thinking, does he think of me ever, will he contact me ever, is he missing ourlife? I don;t need another source of feeling dejected and worthless, so 'i am glad to be here. NOW....is he thinking of me if he has been gone over 1 month, comes around 1x/week when I am not home for mail, no email, phone, etc.....Have "I been forgotten?
we have gentler kinder 2 x 4's...but tother board is right your H is on his own journey..with NO time frame. to have any shot at restoring your M you need to look after you. you need to work on you. the bonus being you will be better for it whether your H comes back or not.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
I understand all of that, but I do not appreciate being told my questions and fers are, essentially, worthless and wrong. I am working on myself - always have, and never whined, complianed, cried, begged, nothing. So, not much to 180 about.,....
All those thoughts are counter productive to your growth and J3B is right no one has those answers...be sure to check out our resources. if you obsess its standing still and drags you down...i would know this because I did it.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
M 13 years H left 2 years ago for 6 months. came back wanted to leave again 5/07. decided to stay began IC and MC. Something in IC freaked him out and he just shut down and went full-blown MLC - i wasnt to be on my own, it is liberating, I don't lovve you, get D ASAP....the usual.....
He is the most generous, kind, thoughftul honest man ever....until MLC.
the trouble with alien abduction theory is they come back looking like our H's...it would easier if they looked like little green men...because....its simply not your H right now.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest
