we have gentler kinder 2 x 4's...but tother board is right your H is on his own journey..with NO time frame. to have any shot at restoring your M you need to look after you. you need to work on you. the bonus being you will be better for it whether your H comes back or not.
Me 53 H 51 OW 25 Bomb may 06 left june 8/ 06 ILYBNILWY (twice!) 7/6/07 H wants to come home 7/21/07 H comes home 7/07 -7/08 long haul letting go of OW now piecing in earnest