You absolutely make sense as I have been trying to go down that route. And, if I feel a meltdown coming on, I don't initiate contact nor respond to Xh's antics.
However, I just got in touch with my T about the trip. He is more concerned about OW being the company of the kids than anything else. He said now is the time I need to be firm with XH as far as her being around them. Remember, she was the one who changed out of her bathing suit while sitting in the front seat and my kids were in the back.
My T said she has had more than enough opportunities to get her act together and she hasn't. A year or so ago OW asked my D if she could "take a poop" while D takes a shower. (and..there was an available batheroom)
I am disgusted just typing this is. I hate talking about this, typing about it, thinking about it. I wish it would just end. No, it's not that I am upset XH is with her, he can have the nasty skank, it's the fact that my kids are being exposed to this.
If this were our sitter, or an uncle, or a neighbor, my XH would be FUMING!
So, looks like I am going on Monday to the courthouse to file a motion to to keep her away from the kids and to address the travel stuff. I want to request my XH needs a notarized signed consent from me if he takes the kids on vacation. Period.
Now you all know why I am so tired. I have a great job. Great boyfriend. Terrific kids. Beautiful home (great rose garden :-) and I am dealing with this crap.
So, I was told to write a letter to XH stating my intention if he does not give me travel info, etc. As for OW, I told him the two of them are upsetting the kids by all the fighting.
Okay..gotta run..
But I wanted EVERYONE to check out this fundraiser for kids with cancer. A friend of mine's son has been free and clear for over a year but she knows one of these families that you will see on this website.
It's about a bunch of dad's who are biking across the country to try to raise money for the children who have cancer.
Now, my friends, this is what I would rather be focusing my energy on. Helping these beautiful children. And I will..
