homeplate, ya know what, it would be great if you two could go to MC or something where you could tell your side and feel justified and such. but sometimes its nice for a person to have a safe place to come and talk, and Kali had that here, for a while.
trust me, we all know there is more than one side to a story. every person here has another person with their version of events. but what we need are people who are just here to listen, to help us through a hard time in our lives, and to maybe offer a glimmer of hope as to how to make what we want a reality. I am in no way a judge or jury, I don't honestly care about the spouses version all that much. I care that Kali, and other people here are hurting and want to try to make things better.
Kali came here because she wanted to save her marriage. that is why each and every one of us found this site. not because she wanted to trash her husband, or put herself on a pedestal. she knows her own faults/weaknesses. we all know our own. and we all want to do better...hopefully with our spouses, but barring that, on our own.
I hope you choose to give Kali some space here on these boards.
Kali, (((HUGS))). having my H find this site is one of my worst nightmares, and I feel for you here. please take care of yourself. I will keep thinking of you and hoping for the best. keep on keepin' on.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
And morgan, my wife did find this website. She peeked over my shoulder while I was browsing posts. Fortunately, she visited just once, and never wandered over to this particular area. whew...
Okay my opinion but you did have an affair. Yes there could be two sides to every story. But you did the most horrible thing any spouse could ever go through and that is the pain of a spouse having sex with someone else.
I consider it every admirable that Cali is trying to change herself. She not only came here for support but to try and save her marriage. To try and keep her family intact for the two of you as well as those babies at home.
She has said several times that she had faults. She is working on those and trying to change herself.
i am too sorry that he found this and posted no less. and Everyone here knows that there are two sides to every story but YOU are the one that is here trying to make things better.
Homeplate, not for nothing but you are the one who had the affair, Kali is here to get help in saving her marriage and that is too be commended.
A spouse who chooses this route to go on I have no respect for, You say you respect her, well you can't possibly respect her if you are cheating on her. irreguardless of the problems in your marriage, be it your fault or hers, An Affair is not going to help matters and certainly is not going to fix anything.
Thinking of you kali.. we are here for you.
xxoo TAL
me: 37 H: 44 Married for 18 years this june S7 S3 porn issues, and much more... since 7/06
Happiness can be found, even in the darkest of times, if one only remembers to turn on the light.
Ditto what tiredandlost said. Cheating on a spouse is the ultimate form of disrespect. Being unremorseful, unrepentant, and refusing to end the affair makes a terrible situation worse.
I am living it right now.
Kali, you are one of us. A member of our elite team. And you are in good company.
You shouldn't worry about what we think of you based on what we've read. We don't know you. We don't even know each other. We are people who could pass each other on the street and not know it. Because we don't even know each other by real name. So get over it. She has anonymous friends who give her emotional support. How does that impact you at all?
