Your M doesn't have a snowball's chance in h*ll until you quit minimizing the problems in your M. They are deep. They are profound. They are extensive. Otherwise, you would not be separated. I've seen you trivializing them and making the only barrier to an easy reconcilliation your W not being open to it. "If only she'd give you the barest chance, things would magically be perfect."
They wouldn't. You have to wait until W WANTS to consider giving you a chance.
Quit the pursuit. You just tried it (re the giant doily). You got turned down. Flat. Do not get the beer for her.
LEAVE HER BE. QUIT TRYING TO INSERT YOURSELF INTO HER LIFE.
