donna, the difference is that he's a grown man, not a child, so we can't parent them. it sucks, because if we see something, know something that might help, its hard to sit back and let them figure it out on their own. its a good sign that he took the books...he'll open them if/when he's ready. My h wouldn't even think about taking a book, not even one to help the kids deal with things. not his style. just figures it will all work out however he wants things to, kids are resilient, etc, etc. Its frustrating, but the only thing I can do is be strong and grow on my own, and hope someday he'll find his own way.
neph, I did end up showing them the wizard of oz. I decided to do it as an afternoon movie, though, so if it was too scary they would be okay (knock wood) for bedtime. they LOVED it. they were scared of the witch, but loved the rest of it. they literally gasped (all 3) when she opened the door to munchkinland. it was so cute. we all snuggled on the couch and watched. if they have nightmares/can't sleep tonight, I have only myself to blame...but I don't think they will. they are already clamoring to watch it again.
thanks for the kind words. I wish I felt as strong as I come across sometimes. well, I take that back, I do feel strong...just wish I felt like things were going my way. there is a difference there.
lwb, sounds like a very full house! I almost invited a friend and her kids over, then changed my mind and decided to just hang with my kids. if you are around, I will see you tonight.
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"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
