I think that for the girls sense of security they need to know they can count on you. Even at such a young age kids tend to know the score and know which parent is truly looking out for them. I don't believe it will ever be a bad thing to put your kids needs ahead of your own even if it means you miss out on something you wanted to do or if you have to juggle.
I would guess, based on what I know of your X, that after meeting your gf she will ramp up the contact with you. It always was her MO. That probably hasn't changed. Reassure your GF that it means nothing to you and just ignore it if you can.
I have never made it a secret that my kids come first. My X is quite the opposite. My kids don't have much of a relationship with their dad because he has made it clear that his needs will always come first. My kids know who will be there for them no matter what. THAT is my reward in all this.
Yeah, She is getting married to her high school sweetheart. They have been together since 1999. He is a great young man and I am happy to have him in the family.
~ Cissy
Look not mournfully into the past. It comes not back again. Wisely improve the present. It is thine. Go forth to meet the shadowy future, without fear. {Henry Wadsworth Longfellow}
